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Women4Women Community in a nutshell

Phat Maverick™ and the Women4Women Community is committed to lifting, pushing, and pulling women forward professionally in their careers and personally in their healthy living choices. We believe that supporting women is not about saying the right thing it’s about doing the right thing. It is about choosing to make healthy and sound decisions while creating positive and rewarding environments for women so that we can all have a stronger & better tomorrow. It is about coaching, developing, supporting and creating honest conversations with one another so we can keep paving the path for the women of tomorrow. We believe that not only should we lift, push and pull the women around us but also the woman within us.

Our goal is to build a professional and personal networking group that focuses on supporting women in their career goals & in their quest to live healthy lifestyles. We build our network of success through relationships, not rules.  We promote and refer business to one another because we have built trust and confidence not because we require it.  We believe all women add value and we are inclusive to all the amazing women that want to be a Phat Maverick™! We Lift each other up, Push each other forward and Pull one another to new heights.

I have 20 years of experience in corporate America and I know first hand how important and impactful it is for women to support one another professionally and personally. Too often we are willing to put ourselves last in line for achieving our dreams and goals and way too often we allow others to put us last as well. We deserve more! We are worth more! I know you agree!

It is time to take care of one another and ourselves. We will all flourish if we work together to lift, push and pull all women toward a better tomorrow. Now is the time to work together to encourage and empower one another to win in business and in making healthy lifestyle choices. Unleash your Phat Maverick™! Together we really can have it all and we can each make an impactful difference to the women that surround us.

What are you waiting for? Be a Phat Maverick!

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Don’t be a Thumbkin!

Do you remember that classic nursery rhyme, Where is Thumbkin? If you do, well then you understand why you don’t want to be a Thumbkin or a Pointer or any of the other little finger people in that family when it comes to networking. Why do you ask? They all ran away immediately after building up enough courage to do the entire meet and greet dance.  I mean really!  They literally ran away after they introduced themselves.  Who does that?  The challenging part in networking is just getting out there and introducing yourself.  Once you do finally get the pleasantries out of the way, the fun in building new relationships begins, if you are willing to put the time in to grow and nurture it.

I will be honest, it might be a little intimidating the first couple times you introduce yourself to a complete stranger, but relax, chances are they are there for the same reason.   They are building their network just like you!  And you are a Phat Maverick- resilient and confident, ready to take on the world.  So don’t get all shy and run away only to never meet again.  There is an objective and purpose to meeting new people and to being engaged with people in your community.  It’s called relationships.  It’s  important in everything we do, not just in business but personally as well- we need relationships.   I believe one of many secrets to all successful and happy people is building and nurturing relationships.  The Thumbkin family apparently missed that piece of critical information.

When I was in the world of sales and sales management one of my favorite things to do was to go on sales calls with my employees.  I wanted to meet their very best and favorite customers.  It was such a great reality check of all the good you can do for real down to earth people who took a chance on their dream and started a business.  I loved hearing the countless stories of how their journey unfolded; or how their parents started the business and passed it onto them.  Every once in awhile our sales team was a part of their story,  and that was pretty cool.

After being out there in the world for nearly 20 years meeting and greeting new people as though it was second nature, I realized that not everyone was as comfortable as I was going out on sales calls and meeting new people.  Some were even horrified to join civic organizations and lead groups.  It took me awhile to wrap my head around this because these people knew they were in sales when I hired them and now they trembled like a deer in headlights when I suggested going on sales calls with them.  Gotta be honest- still don’t totally get it.   It’s not that I don’t understand the different personalities and the different comfort zones people have in interacting but if you apply for a sales job you need to be ok getting out there and meeting new people.   Not to mention I CLEARLY explained the expectations during the interview process. Regardless of what you sell or what service you offer, you must understand that you are in THE PEOPLE  BUSINESS.  People will typically make decisions based on an emotional connection.  If you can connect, build relationships and nurture those relationships chances are they will choose to do business with you.

The world has become quite a busy place, and somewhere somehow the notion of building relationships has been lost.  It’s become all about the quick meet and the quick sell.   Email blasts and Facebook posts!  Trust me, the relationships you develop and nurture will drive more sales and more referrals than an email blast or nagging people on Social Media.

I want to share a few of my “go to” networking tips with you and hopefully, it will help you become more comfortable and confident in approaching and meeting new people at your next networking event or social gathering.

  • TIP #1   SAFETY NET QUESTIONS   These are 3 or 4 questions that you can ask when the infamous uncomfortable silence unwelcomely takes over the conversation.  Be sure the questions are open ended or chances are your unwanted guest of silence will show his awkward face again.
  • TIP #2  LIMIT ALCOHOL  Not sure I need to spend a lot of time on this one but let’s be honest too much alcohol has never created the most impressive person at an event.  So if you are going to indulge, go for it.  Just be smart on how much you consume because someone is always watching.  And, you don’t be “that person.”
  •  TIP #3  DITCH THE SALES PITCH   You can not build a great reputation in your field if you are trying to sell to people that may or may not have a need for your product or service; it is so annoying.  I was at a baseball game the other day, and I was telling my friend that I found a beautiful house I would love to buy.  Of course, the house was about 90% out of my price range, but that was the fun of the want.  But some guy I had never met before apparently over heard me and immediately jumped into our conversation and proceeded to tell me how he could sell me that house and here was his card and let’s go ahead and schedule a time to look at the house.  I had to interrupt him and tell him I already had five other realtor friends I would have to choose from if I decided to move forward.  When I looked into his eyes, I saw the dollar signs that consumed his thoughts fade away ever so slowly.
  • TIP #4 FOLLOW UP  When you do meet someone that you connect with professionally ask for a follow-up lunch or meeting where you can discuss how you can build a win-win partnership.  If you are not willing to follow up, then you would be more productive skipping the event and staying at home to watch Animal Planet or a nice PBS special.
Alright.  There you have it, just a few of many best practices that I have witnessed bring success to many sales people and people just wanting to expand their network.  They all seem very elementary and yet often neglected when most needed.   Feel free to reach out to me if you need a few more ideas or would like to schedule some time discussing your business plan.



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Your Alter Ego Superhero…

is waiting to be unleashed!

Isn’t it time to unleash your Alter Ego Superhero?  Come on! Trust me, empower yourself to unleash her.  That is exactly what I have or rather what I am working on doing every day.  Every woman should unleash her Alter Ego Superhero!  Go ahead…. look in the mirror.  She is in there just waiting to save the day…. your day!  That little piece of yourself buried deep down inside of you. That piece of you that believes in you no matter what and always comes to your rescue.  Your Super Hero!  And let’s be honest, we have all daydreamed at some point in life about being a superhero.  I can’t tell you how many times I almost crashed that invisible plane when I was a young girl or did the Wonder Twin Power Activate bump with my BFF.   Think of your Alter Ego Superhero as your personal internal superhero.  Instead of saving the world by leaps and bounds you can be the superhero that saves yourself by committing to Lifting yourself up, Pushing yourself forward and Pulling yourself to a better, healthier and happier tomorrow.

Curious about the straw that broke my back?  What really happened that caused the unleashing?  It probably won’t surprise you to know it was not just one thing.  It was years in the making.  Simply put, I finally got sick and tired of playing the “game” which requires me to be complacent, accepting and not MORE transparent than the person asking me the question really wants me to be.  You know what I mean.  The boss, a friend or someone with some type of “power” over you asks you a question and you know if you don’t answer the question with what they want to hear all hell will break out and you basically just put the bus in gear to run your own butt over.  So, while you are thinking “that is a horrible idea” to what they just asked you, the words “best idea ever” robotically bounce out of your mouth while slightly stroking their ego on the way to their ears just as these words have done too many times in the past.

I got sick of people treating me as though I was disposable and replaceable.  I am a loyal friend and employee, and I have walked on nails, sacrificed time and gave all of what I had to give to those that I was loyal to.   To continuously not be shown the same loyalty or commitment can get pretty annoying and so my cup began to runneth over with some serious bitterness and resentment.  I never really ask for much from people, but loyalty is a big one.  It’s the binding agent of any relationship.

I got sick of the taste of blood in my mouth from biting my tongue and not fighting for myself or for my beliefs and values in fear of being reprimanded in some fashion for having my own thoughts.  Have you ever spent much time with those people that ask “what do you think,” but they really don’t care what you think?  Especially if it is different than what they are thinking.  They are just building their own little army of robots. Those that have known these people know!  You get fewer phone calls,  fewer invites, and fewer opportunities.   And let’s be honest, it is not just men doing this to women. It’s women shaming women for having a belief system, an ethical compass or a different opinion.  This sounds like a topic for an upcoming blog. Stay tuned…..

I got sick of ME treating myself as though I was not worthy of respect because nothing I did was ever good enough. I got sick of being in fear of letting myself down and letting those around me down. I got sick of fearing the possibility of failure. I got sick of self-doubt and not believing in myself.  I got sick of not being ME- strong, confident with a winning spirit. I got to the point I didn’t even believe in myself anymore!  The once overachiever, Can-do-anything kind of gal who always wore fabulous shoes no longer believed in herself.  I so wanted her back.  I longed for her to return to me.  I couldn’t do it alone.  I needed one person to believe in me!  Just one!  And that one person needed to be ME!   So, I did the only thing I could.  The only thing that could save me.  I unleashed HER from the depths within me! MY ALTER EGO SUPERHERO! My Superhero!  Created for me, by me.  She has come to my rescue! She has saved me from me. She believes in me! She reminds me I am strong!  I am smart!  I am important!  I have a purpose! She makes me strong, confident and invincible. She is exactly who I need my Superhero to be- she is ME.

SHE IS PHAT MAVERICK! She is LIFTING, PUSHING & PULLING me for my stronger tomorrow.  Are you willing to unleash your Phat Maverick?  Are your ready to fight for a stronger and better you?

So, here I go!  I hope you will join me and Phat Maverick for a fun adventure all about being honest, positive and purposeful in lifting, pushing and pulling myself and others toward a better tomorrow.

Phat Maverick


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What is a Phat Maverick

What is a PhatMaverick?  In order to get a better understanding, let’s take a look at how Merriam-Webster breaks down each word.

Phat:  very attractive or appealing

Maverick: a person who refuses to follow the customs or rules

Now add a couple of X chromosomes to the mix and you have an unstoppable force of a woman.  You have a PhatMaverick.

PHAT MAVERICK: an attractive and appealing woman who does not conform to the norm and does not always play it safe.  Someone that will stand up and say what needs to be said without fear of being ostracized for not being politically correct or conforming to the majority.

Here at PhatMaverick, we are going to blog about issues that impact women of all ages. This is an inclusive blog that is all about lifting women up, pushing them forward and pulling them ahead through conversations which promote the well-being of all women without unnecessary “fluff”.

So, if you want to be a Phat Maverick follow our blog and tell us what you think or let us know what topics you want to discuss!